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Which Witch is Which? Are They a Narcissist or a Sociopath?


Process of Elimination: Navigating Through the Cluster B Spectrum

Deciphering the Narcissist from the Sociopath is some tricky business because they are practically identical. The two biggies that set them apart are the disordereds’ motives and levels of self awareness. In other words, you’d have to get the N/S to be open and forthcoming about the inner workings of his mind if you wanted clarification. As always, you can count out the Narc or Socio for assistance. Unless you crack their heads open like coconuts and unravel the twisted little rats nests that dwell within, that ain’t happening. Those truths are tucked securely away right beside Jimmy Hoffa and D.B. Cooper and the teensy pile of charred ash and grime that used to be the Narc’s conscience.

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Antisocials and Narcissists: Know ‘Em and No ‘Em


Process of Elimination: Navigating Through the Cluster B Spectrum

Six Things You Should Know About Psychopathic Personalities

  1. These people don’t suffer from psychosis, they are devoid of morals. They’re not crazy, they’re evil. They know right from wrong but they consciously choose to do wrong if it serves their own needs.
  2. This is a permanent condition. They will never change. You cannot help them.
  3. Every social situation is a competition/contest/game to them. Even the insignificant stuff. Your confused protests of “But it’s NOT a competition!” mean precisely dick and squat.
  4. They will not say or do anything that doesn’t benefit themselves in some way on some level.
  5. If you “do something to them” they will not forget about it until they have satisfied themselves by punishing you. If they see an opportunity for revenge fifty years later they will take it.
  6. “Who you are” to a Narcissist/Sociopath/Psychopath means nothing when they feel threatened and start “defending” themselves. You’re going…

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Why narcissists and borderlines are drawn to each other.


Lucky Otters Haven

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I’t’s uncanny how often people with NPD and BPD seem to find each other. Every one of my boyfriends (except for one, who was severely bipolar) and my ex-husband were narcissists. I know a lot of other borderlines who say they have the same problem–they simply are not attracted to a man or woman who is not a narcissist. There are reasons why this happens.

Both BPD and NPD are included in the category of Cluster B personality disorders in the DSM-V (along with Histrionic and Antisocial personality disorders). Cluster B disorders are all characterized at their root by problems establishing an identity early in childhood and integrity of the Self which causes people with these disorders to act out toward themselves or others in destructive ways and to have problems either accessing or developing prosocial emotions like empathy. All are prone to lie excessively and manipulate others.

All Cluster…

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818. Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Smell the rain and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential…. ~Ashley Smith


Sacred Touches

The doors we open and close
each day decide the lives we live.
~Flora Whittemore

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Life is…
Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise it, fulfill it.
Life is a sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.
~Mother Teresa

In Him(Christ) was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. ~John 1:4  ✝

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Podcast : Dealing with Perfectionism: The killer of Self-esteem


Boundaries of the Soul

Many people who suffer from low self-esteem are driven by unhelpful thinking about the standards they have set themselves in order to feel good about themselves. If you are one of these people then you have a lot in common with most of the clients I see. A commonality is that they are usually bright and intelligent and have achieved relative success in their lives. Yet their self-esteem stays low because they haven’t achieved the perfect way of being they believe they should obtain. We all know that it is almost impossible to get a perfect score in life and who really knows what “perfect” is?  How would we even know that we have reached perfection? Even being the best in the world doesn’t suggest being perfect. So the easy equation is…the more you try to be perfect…the more times you will fail!  How does this then affect self-esteem? the simple answer is hugely! What it…

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Keeping it Simple


(The Old) Holistic Health & Living

lotus flowerBy Awarenessinstitute

Over the past few months, the concepts of stripping back the superfluous, simplifying and pulling apart the true meaning of integrity have been strong personal themes. For many people, there’s a drive to again inspect old patterns that continue to run happily in the background despite years of self-examination. Perhaps under the direction of a new global energy, there’s a sense of being able to lovingly let go of those things that have served us all well on one level, yet have offered excuses to stay small on another.

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Positive Thinking And Its Effect On Your Health


(The Old) Holistic Health & Living

positive-thinkingBy Greg Riley

The first situation to consider is the relationship between thoughts and conditions like depression and stress. A crucial question is whether the person’s thoughts are creating the physical depression or the physical depression is creating the negative thinking. When it comes to how you can use your mind to help, this can be accomplished consciously and subconsciously. When someone has a habit of imagining things turning out very badly, rational thinking can show show them that they often exaggerate. However, the unconscious mind is much more powerful in shaping our habitual behavior, oftentimes beyond our conscious control. Visualization and hypnosis can be very effective in modifying beliefs and, if you do this, the long-lasting effects can be more powerful than using logic only.

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The Evils of Caffeine


(The Old) Holistic Health & Living

evil-coffeeBy Nikoletta Ven

Charles Czeisler, a neuroscientist and sleep expert from Harvard Medical School explains: “When the nature of work changed from a schedule built around the sun to an indoor job timed by a clock, humans had to adapt. The widespread use of caffeinated food and drink – in combination with the invention of electric light – allowed people to cope with a work schedule set by the clock, not by daylight or the natural sleep cycle.” In addition, scientific studies have shown that the power boost of caffeine is connected with its interference with adenosine – a chemical in our bodies, which has hypnotic effect and works as a natural sleeping pill. Caffeine actually ceases adenosine and in this way our alertness gets increased and our sleep habits are disrupted. As we all know, there’s no such thing as a free lunch and we pay for this extra…

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High Blood Pressure vs. Low Blood Pressure – Which is worse?


(The Old) Holistic Health & Living

By Jelie Osorio

Taking blood pressue The force exerted by the circulating blood on the blood vessels’ walls is known as blood pressure. It is one of the most essential vital signs of a person. Others are breathing, temperature and hear beats.

If a person has a high blood pressure or “hypertension”, it can increase his or her risk of developing the following:

On the other hand, if a person has a low blood pressure or “hypotension”, it may cause signs or symptoms that are due to the low blood flow going through the veins and arteries. If blood is too low in terms of delivering enough nutrients and oxygen to vital organs of the body such as the kidneys, the heart and the brain, these organs will not function normally. They may become temporarily or worse…

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Fall Asleep Faster and Sleep Better


Fall Asleep Faster and Sleep Better.

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