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Reflections By Madeleine P. Maya

As individuals that have the responsibility to our future beings we need to  guide children to be complete and intact, as we prepare them , let us teach them to  have healthy adult relationships, and develop into strong, positive individuals. Abilities to manage their emotions, overcome challenges, and develop pro-social relationships impact their wellbeing.

We need to teach them life skills such as to learn self -discovery, self and social – awareness, self-management, decision making, assertiveness, time management, self-worth and self-love, empathy and connection.

Somehow we have lost these human values and have forgotten how significant they are for our a functional society.  Schools should incorporate these basics skills in their curriculum with psychoeducation as part of their core classes in Middle and Highschool.

Intimacy with your partner is basic to a happy relationship. Explore with them the following questions; “1. Physical: How and when do you like to be touched by me? 2. Mental: What can we talk about that is interesting and fulfilling to you? 3. Emotional: How can I make you feel safe to talk openly about your feelings? 4. Spiritual: What gives you meaning in life that you would like to share with me?” Randi Gunther Ph.D. Randi Gunther Ph.D. Rediscovering Love

helpingothershelpthemselves – Find some kindness and joy while visiting.

Healthy relationships talk in I statements, they do not Blame, and they state what they need! Do not critize, nor be contemptuous, nor stone wall your partner. Keep the romance, listen attentively, and ask for clarifications and for what you need. Art Reflection by Madeleine P. Maya

Learn to be in attunement -attunement. noun. being or bringing into harmony; a feeling of being “at one” with another being”. Art Reflection by Madeleine P. Maya

State your thoughts and emotions with “I statements,” but don’t be critical with “You statements.” Meta communicate and repeat what you understand and make sure you did by asking if you got it right. Photo Reflection by Madeleine P. Maya

If you have been abused and or have trauma as part of your past, be aware that you may easily be able to give positives and compliments but receiving them may be very difficult! Never assume that what you think the other is thinking is true, ASK! Do not fear to ask for what you need and for reassurance and comfort! Art Reflection by Madeleine P. Maya

Say “Yes”

https://patcegan.wordpress.com/2017/06/03/say-yes-2/

The Ten Obligations of the Empath

http://narcsite.com/2017/06/03/the-ten-obligations-of-the-empath-5/